DEAR MAN: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy skill for building interpersonal effectiveness

Have you ever felt angry, hurt, upset, sad, disappointed because you didn’t get something you wanted or needed, but also you never asked?

If you don’t speak up for your wants and needs, you can’t expect that people are going to meet them reliably. Because people aren’t mind readers.

Most of the time, when you speak up in a skillful way, you can fulfill your needs and wants.

Using the acronym DEAR MAN, you can help your clients learn how to speak their needs.

This is perfect for...

...The client who has trouble saying “NO” all the time...

...The one who lets their friends and family members walk all over them...

Let me show you step-by-step how to use this Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skill in this short video.




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By completing Dr. Pederson's Certified Dialectical Behavior Therapy Professional (C-DBT) Training available in a convenient online format, designed to fit seamlessly into your busy schedule.

When you complete this intensive training, you'll be prepared to effectively apply proven DBT techniques and tools in your practice in a flexible way, specific to your client population, to improve treatment outcomes and your practice.

Plus, you can end this course and become a Certified Dialectical Behavior Therapy Professional (C-DBT) at no additional cost to you!
Lane Pederson PsyD, LP, C-DBT

Lane Pederson, PsyD, LP, C-DBT, has provided Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) training and consultation to over 30,000 professionals in the United States, Australia, South Africa, England, Canada, Mexico, and the Middle East through his training and consultation company, Lane Pederson and Associates, LLC (www.DrLanePederson.com).  A real world practitioner, Dr. Pederson co-owns Mental Health Systems, PC (MHS), one of the largest DBT-specialized practices in the United States with four clinic locations in Minnesota (www.mhs-dbt.com).  At MHS, Dr. Pederson has developed DBT programs for adolescents, adults, people with dual disorders, and people with developmental disabilities.  He has served as clinical and training directors, has directed practice-based clinical outcome studies, and has overseen the care of thousands of clients in need of intensive outpatient services.

Dr. Pederson’s DBT publications include The Expanded Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Manual, 2nd Edition: DBT for Self-Help and Individual & Group Treatment Settings  (PESI, 2017); Dialectical Behavior Therapy: A Contemporary Guide for Practitioners (Wiley, 2015); Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training for Integrated Dual Disorder Treatment Settings (PESI, 2013) and The DBT Deck for Clients and Therapists: 101 Mindful Practices to Manage Distress, Regulate Emotions & Build Better Relationships (PESI, 2019).

Notable organizations he has trained for include Walter Reed National Military Hospital, the Federal Bureau of Prisons, the Ontario Psychological Association, the Omid Foundation, and Psychotherapy Networker.  He has provided DBT training for community mental health agencies, chemical dependency treatment centers, hospital and residential care settings, and to therapists in forensic settings.  Dr. Pederson also co-owns Acacia Therapy and Health Training (www.AcaciaTraining.co.za) in South Africa. Dr. Pederson currently serves on the advisory board for the doctorial counseling program at Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota and is a peer reviewer for Forensic Scholars Today.

Lane Pederson is not affiliated or associated with Marsha M. Linehan, PhD, ABPP, or her organization.

 

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Lane Pederson maintains private practice and is the founder and CEO of Dialectical Behavior Therapy National Certification and Accreditation Association. He receives compensation as a national speaker and receives royalties as a published author. Lane Pederson receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Lane Pederson has no relevant non-financial relationships.

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